Many times we may feel the need to constantly entertain our children, with games or stories, so that they don't get bored. As good as this does, it can end up tiring for parents and can often rob children of creative skills and opportunities. It may sound strange but sometimes it's good to be bored!
Usually, when a child is bored, they will complain about this feeling. They may whine or complain. This is fine and should not be a concern because after a while they will stop because they will find something to occupy themselves with. Boredom is something that often scares us, but it is a part of life. And giving children the opportunity to learn this early, may be one of the best things we can do for them.
What good can this feeling do?
In creativity
The mind doesn't always go where we want it to. It may be that when we want to do something specific it wanders while when we have nothing to do it is more active. Many studies have shown that people are often more creative when they are bored. This often happens to children as well.
When our mind is bored, it often becomes dreamy and this thinking also brings creativity. When children have nothing to do, they often use their imagination and this is one of the best skills they can develop. It is a skill that allows them to become adaptive beings even in the most difficult situations.
In psychological well-being
Boredom gives meaning to life. The American Psychological Association, after research, claims that when people are bored, they tend to look back on their lives and feel that the things they have done have more meaning. They also begin to make more sense of things to come.
This is because our brains fear inactivity. When we do nothing, so that we don't spend our whole lives staring at the walls, our brain tries to make life more interesting.
Being bored is an important basis for finding meaning in life. When our children are bored, this feeling helps them find value in their own experiences and develop their own unique worldview, which makes them psychologically stronger for the future.
In motivation
When our children grow up, we won't be there every moment of every day. We will not be able to entertain them or fill their schedule with educational events. At some point, we have to let go and hope for the best, and that's why kids need to learn how to motivate themselves. Thus, they learn to motivate themselves and make decisions to find solutions and ways out, making them more independent.
Boredom makes children more interesting
Only boring people are bored. This is one of the most important life skills a child can learn. When we spend all our time entertaining our children, they never have to learn how to have fun. We may think we need to be there for them all the time, but in reality there is no connection between the time you spend with your children and how the children themselves are shaped and developed.
They don't need us to be there every minute. They need to learn how to handle things on their own. Giving our children too much attention can create some problems. Inadvertently, it can teach them that they are the center of the world and that everyone is here to serve them. It can also cause children to accept an identity developed by their parents, rather than developing their own.
Boredom is good for parents too
Letting your kids have some alone time gives you personal time. You don't have to wait until bedtime, to enjoy some alone time. Having some mom and dad time is vital to keeping your relationship alive and being a good parent. Focusing on 24/7 parenting does the opposite. It increases your stress, which can really hurt your kids.
Children pick up on their parents' stress, which can hurt their school performance and create behavioral problems. If you are not happy, neither are your children, and if you are not mentally well, neither are your children. So put down the juggling tricks and let your kids get bored for a while. Take some time for yourself. Not only is it good for you, but it might be the best thing you can do for them.
So, it's not always bad to be bored. Of course, like everything in moderation. But children are much more independent than you think, and by giving them a little more space and time, they can develop skills that will carry them through teenage and adult life!
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